Faith & Mindset

By Lessa Harding

One thing few people know about me is that I have pointed ears. I remember coming home from school crying because the kids in my class teased me about my ears. When I started reading fantasy novels and role playing with my daddy as a teenager, I thought my pointed ears were cool. On occasion, I even used dark eyeshadow to accentuate the pointiness and I styled my hair to draw attention to my ears. Who am I kidding? I did that through my 20s.

I secretly loved my ears, even when I was teased about them as a kid. I was certain I was really an elf princess with auburn hair to match the color of the Redwoods and with green eyes to match the leaves. My ears made me the heroine in many an imaginative story. I was drawn back into this reverie about my ears as I got to know author Terry Deighton.

After speaking with Terry, I can’t help but wonder how many of us have envisioned ourselves as the courageous hero who saves the day and changes the world. The thing about a courageous hero, though, is you can’t be one unless there is conflict or fear that has to be overcome. WWI hero Eddie Rickenbacker said that “courage is doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared.”

Terry is a quiet hero who loves reading, crafting, watching television, and talking with her family. Her friend Ann Acton, author of The Miracle Maker, describes Terry as a “grammar goddess,” but Terry describes herself as an introvert who “always wanted to write books that would affect readers the way [she] has been affected by [her own] reading.” Terry also fully admits to having to work to develop the thick skin—and, I would add, the courage—required to send her work into the wide world of publishing. Terry told me that “the hardest thing I’ve had to learn is not to be hurt by criticism. It’s important to let it sit until it doesn’t hurt anymore and then look at it objectively and see how you can revise your writing to make it better.”

Terry is the author of three Christmas novellas and a five-book middle-grade series called Tweaks. Her blog describes her series as having “a dash of science, a splash of humor, and a generous portion of character development.” Having read the books, I fully agree with that description and the 4-star and higher ratings her books have received on Goodreads. I’m pretty sure Terry is one of those amazing heroes who “is doing what [she] is afraid to do.” I hope her advice helps you find the courage you need to be a hero too:

• “Try to get an agent, but if that doesn’t happen in a reasonable amount of time, give self-publishing a try. You don’t have to choose one or the other.”
• You may wish you could just “write your books, publish them, and send them out on their own. Unfortunately, they just sit if you do that. . . . All authors have to do a lot of marketing, so understanding social media and setting up Amazon ads is important.”
• “Write when and where inspiration strikes.”
• In terms of balancing family and work, “you have to decide what is most important and organize your time according to those priorities. Give up what isn’t important so you have time for both family and writing.”
• “Don’t set arbitrary deadlines for yourself, and don’t compare your output to anyone else’s.”
• “Use rejection to fuel the desire to write better, to learn the craft, to find your niche.”
• “Above all, don’t give up. [Giving up] won’t make you happy. If you are a writer, you have to write. Write for yourself, and publish when it seems right.”

By Kristen Reber

“I have never sought to do anything other than to build His kingdom,” Sheri Dew said. “And as a result, I have had the opportunity to be in the presence of prophets, seers, and revelators.”

I heard those thirty-two words at the third annual conference of the Latter-day Saint Publishing and Media Association (LDSPMA). I was sitting roughly ten feet from Sheri Dew—CEO of Deseret Book; executive vice president of Deseret Management Corporation; former general officer in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints; and prolific, well-known author. She was among many admirers of her work and could have opened with anything! I expected her to start with something much grander about herself. But she chose to open with a line that praised the Lord and placed herself in the position of a humble servant rather than as a great leader. Her example, expressed in just thirty-two words, struck me. They changed how I view myself as a writer.

I had long wanted to be a published author. Those yearnings began when I was about seven years old and someone told me I was a good writer. I heard over and over again that I had a talent with the written word. This was great news because I enjoyed writing! And it’s always nice to hear that you’re good at something.

When I became an adult, I was asked when I was going to finally publish a book. I’d start to write one, but I always got in my own head, wanting to craft something great. Something that I’d be remembered for. So I’d always feel disappointed with what I wrote. I knew I had talent, but when would I finally write something worthy to be on a shelf next to the great writers of the past? I wanted my name in lights. I wanted to be well-known. And the paltry stories I kept churning out just kept falling short.

But the ideas kept coming and I’d keep trying. I published a couple articles in the Ensign, and I was proud of them. It was fun to see my name listed as the author. But I wanted to write a book.

A particular book idea had been forming in my mind off and on for several years—ever since I’d returned home early from my mission. I had written a memoir and tried to get it published, but the manuscript was rejected because the topic was “taboo,” in the publisher’s words. Furthermore, memoirs generally don’t sell well unless they’re written by someone famous.

I was actually okay with the memoir being rejected. I was still hurting deeply from having to leave my mission early and still grappling with feelings of failure. I had much more of a journey to walk before I was ready to write such a book.

Years passed and I healed from the experience of returning home early from my mission. But thoughts of the book persisted. Over the years, my idea changed from writing a memoir to a resource book. No such book had been written for early-returned missionaries, and I realized that I could become the first to do so. I might even become famous for doing so. I tried not to let that thought persist, but it came back, as self-aggrandizing thoughts have a tendency to do.

During the LDSPMA conference that Sheri Dew spoke at, I met an acquisitions editor from Cedar Fort and pitched the book idea. She loved it. She told me to dust off the old manuscript, spruce it up, and give her a call when it was in progress. These words were an aspiring author’s dream come true!

I was in a daze the rest of the conference. Me? A published author? At last? The experience was surreal.

And then Sheri Dew said the words that woke me up to the real purpose of having a talent: “I have never sought to do anything other than to build His Kingdom.”

I thought about how I’d wanted to see my name in lights. I wanted me to be glorified and recognized. I wanted the world to know that I was talented. I wanted “Kristen Reber” to be known.

It all seemed so silly. I have worth and talents, but they come from Heavenly Father. They were given to me in the hopes that I would use them to build His kingdom. It became clear to me why my stories had been so paltry lately. I’d been comparing myself against others. I cared more about what the world thought than what He thought. I needed to change my focus. My writing shouldn’t be about me. It should be about Him. Who cares if Kristen Reber becomes famous? I wanted my works to make Him well-known to others. I wanted to do my part, however great or however small, in building His kingdom. And I was going to start with a book for early-returned missionaries.

I also felt grateful to Sheri Dew and her example to me. Because of her example, I started every interview with early-returned missionaries, every writing session, and every editing session with a prayer. I refused to get cocky about my own abilities. The book was a challenge to write, and I knew that to adequately cover the topic, I needed all the help I could get. And even as I became an expert on the subject, I knew it couldn’t hurt to remain humble and continue to pray for help and guidance. When I read what I wrote and was satisfied with it, I said another prayer of gratitude instead of patting myself on the back. These practices made writing the book a sacred experience.

Early Homecoming was published in August 2018. I received emails from people thanking me for my work and telling me that I was talented. At times I could still feel the attention getting to my head. I mean, it was exciting to receive those emails, to see my work on the shelves of bookstores and in Deseret Book’s catalog, and to receive pictures of people—both those I knew and those I didn’t know—purchasing my book! It was exciting to see the sales numbers from the publisher and to see a “bestseller” label slapped on my book at Costco! And it was thrilling to see my name finally on the cover of a book! But when I felt the praise and the attention getting to my head, I reminded myself that the purpose of Early Homecoming was to build His kingdom. I let myself enjoy the excitement and the feeling of accomplishment, but I didn’t let it go beyond that. The feeling of building His kingdom was better than any compliment, and I wanted to keep that perspective.

As I’ve continued on my journey in publishing, whether as a writer, editor, or some other role, I’ve asked myself: “How can I build His kingdom?” I’ve found a lot of peace through asking that question. When I get caught up in “I can become well-known or famous or praised if I . . .” I notice myself tailspinning and lacking in inspiration. But when I focus on building His kingdom, inspiration and peace come.

Although Sheri Dew and I have both chosen to focus our work on gospel-centered topics, building His kingdom isn’t limited to creating Church literature or media. In my interview with David Archuleta at LDSPMA’s fourth annual conference, David told me that he keeps God in mind in everything that he does. Though David sings pop music, he wants what he sings to bring people closer to God. David also tries to remember who gave him this gift of music and how He wants David to use it.

Also at the fourth annual conference, Orson Scott Card said that although he doesn’t seek to write novels related to the Church, gospel ideals find their way into his work. For example, Ender Wiggins in Ender’s Game exemplifies Doctrine and Covenants 121:41–43. He’s the perfect leader, and Card encourages readers to try to develop those leadership qualities.

I will always be grateful to people like Sheri Dew, David Archuleta, and Orson Scott Card for showing me that building His kingdom has its own reward. While these people are famous, they don’t let their fame define them. They don’t compromise their faith; nor do they assist in building His kingdom just so they can become more famous. Rather, they’ve been set as “lights on a hill” to lead others to Him. I am grateful that LDSPMA provides opportunities for so many people to learn from Sheri Dew, David Archuleta, Orson Scott Card, and others. And I’m grateful that because of those thirty-two simple words from Sheri Dew, I changed how I saw myself as a writer.