By Barry Rellaford
Reflect on a time in your life when someone believed in you, saw something important that you didn’t see in yourself, or gave you an opportunity to learn and contribute. Who comes to mind?
Perhaps it was a teacher. A family member. Someone you worked with. A Church leader or adviser. A sports coach, music teacher, or theater director. Maybe it was a leader of a writing workshop. Perhaps it was someone you interacted with for only a moment.
I’ve asked people around the world to engage in this simple reflection, and I’m constantly inspired and humbled by their answers.
The person you’ve thought of likely served as a mentor for you—someone who helped you develop your potential, especially professionally.
Mentoring is more than an activity; it’s a relationship. While the focus is on the performer’s development, mentoring brings benefits to the mentor as well. The dividends of mentoring relationships are much the same as in other high-trust relationships: increased confidence, improved results, greater positive energy, and true joy.
One of the greatest mentors in my professional life was Chriss Mecham, my supervisor in my first corporate job. She took a risk to hire me (I didn’t have the two years of corporate management development experience CompuServe was looking for) and rapidly gave me opportunities to understand and work toward achieving my potential.
But Chriss could be tough.
At one point, I was being a maverick, drawing attention and credit to myself. In a very direct and caring way, she helped me see that the work I was doing depended on an entire team. And instead of reining me in, she opened the gates, continued to extend trust, and gave me more opportunities to grow. I love and appreciate her for the investment she made in me, and we’re still close friends 30+ years later.
Belonging to a professional organization like LDSPMA provides many opportunities to mentor and be mentored. “Let’s take a look at some of the ways to find or be a mentor.”
How Do I Find a Mentor?
To find a mentor, start by thinking of people in your field whom you admire. Seek them out in person, online, or by phone. See if they would be willing to occasionally meet or otherwise talk with you to help you progress in your career.
Another way to find a mentor is to come to LDSPMA’s annual conference. It’s an unparalleled opportunity to interact with industry luminaries in an intimate setting. Meet speakers and panelists before and after their sessions. Connect with them online and through what they’ve published.
Also join LinkedIn, and follow thought leaders. Comment on their blog posts and social media pages. If you’re interested in having someone you admire serve as your mentor, then ask. It’s that simple. Meeting the potential mentor in person and establishing a meaningful relationship will facilitate this possibility.
For example, Richard Leider is one of the luminaries in the field of purposeful work and living and is the author of several bestselling books, including The Power of Purpose. I traveled to the San Francisco Bay area to attend a workshop he was leading, and I took the initiative to help him set up for the day and to visit with him one-on-one. That initial meeting grew into the opportunity to spend three weeks together in Tanzania and to lead workshops together. Most successful people are generous in paying forward the investment their mentors made in them.
With so many new publishing modalities, you may find that your mentor is younger than you—and more experienced! Don’t be embarrassed to learn from them, and see how you can help them in return.
What If I Want to Mentor?
Reflect on the person who extended trust to you, and do the same as they did—for the same reasons. Care about people. Care about your profession. Invest your energy and time in helping others by providing mentoring.
In a professional association, like LDSPMA, one of the greatest benefits of membership is mentoring relationships. If you’re an experienced editor, publisher, writer, filmmaker, composer, podcaster, or other publishing/media professional, look for opportunities to share career and life lessons and help shorten the learning curve of a rookie in the field.
Take on leadership roles in professional circles. Share lessons learned in talks, articles, LinkedIn posts, and other online avenues.
Conclusion
“I am a part of all that I have met,” wrote Tennyson in Ulysses. I seek to be the best part of all whom I’ve met. I look forward to meeting you at an LDSPMA event or online. Please let me know how I can help you in your journey of sharing light!
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